Dogs

Below excerpt taken from http://www.petcentric.com/Read/Articles/Do-Dogs-Feel-Love.aspx?articleid=792a5e32-3030-4453-ae9f-5f48b093f98e :-

Dogs Give Unconditional Love

 

Dogs taken from abusive situations hold no grudges toward the human race. A half an ounce of kindness from a new person results in an abundance of affection from the formerly mistreated dog. Humans rarely have the capacity to so completely forgive and love under those circumstances.

Probably the biggest reason the dog has become man’s best friend is because we know that when it comes to love, a dog can always outdo us. The highest form of love, agape love, which is completely unconditional, is something that people often have to work at or grow into. Agape love seems to come naturally between parent and child, but it’s more difficult between husband and wife, and harder still between friends. To love someone regardless of what wrongs they have done you is very difficult for humans.

A dog, however, is born with an endless capacity for unconditional love, and doesn’t even have to work at it. You can be a complete grouch, ignore your dog, and refuse him your love. When you decide you’re ready to be sociable again, your dog doesn’t pay you back by ignoring you too. He’s just happy you’re there. More amazing still, is that the love that dogs and owners feel for each other lasts a lifetime. This is the ideal love humans strive for, but often fail at.

As Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson so beautifully writes in Dogs Never Lie About Love, “Learning to know somebody intimately is often the beginnings of dislike, sometimes even of contempt. Among humans, love often does not survive a growing acquaintance, but in a dog, love seems to grow with acquaintance, to get stronger, deeper. Even when fully acquainted with all our weaknesses, our treachery, our unkindness, the dog seems to love strongly – and this dog love is returned by most humans. We, too, seem to love our dogs the more we get to know them. The bond grows between us and our dogs.”

This is why we need dogs. They do something for us that rarely a human companion can do. No matter how much you mess up your life, or how much wrong you do, no matter how many mistakes you make or how often you make them, regardless of your looks, income or social standing, your dog never judges you. He always thinks you are wonderful and loves you with all his heart.

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Books

I have been reading ‘The Unknown Errors of Our Lives’ by Chitra Banerjee and am liking it very much.

Why am writing this post?
1) A sort of mental note to myself to follow this author more.
Emotions, relationships, living abroad, Bengali sensibilities, vivid imagery – I loved….errr was moved by this book.
Sample this from the latest story I read :
“It’s too exhausting to hold on to grudges…”

2) A thought struck me….few years back, I guess in 2009 Dec, I was in Kolkata with this same book. I couldn’t read it back then – may be I didn’t get time because of the wedding , for which I was there, or may be I was just 25 back then…pompous and all confident about myself…may be not ready for this kind of book.

So the point is the type of books that you…rather I like or I have liked have changed over years….

From reading specifically the portion of Mario Puzo’s masterpiece where Sonny Corleone pins somebody….hmm well I don’t remember her name….on to a wall….during my teenage years

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Sportstars’ marvellous inspirational articles on ….well…sportstars(I still remember what they wrote for Steve Waugh in one article : If you want somebody to bat for your life, he has got to be Steve Waugh) and old reader digests from Kabadi market in Doon to cartoon strips of world war 2 (to MENTALLY prepare myself for NDA & SSB)

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Jeffery Archer’s Prodigial Daughters and Sons and their Illustrious Families and Kane and Abel and Quiver Full of Arrows and yes the ‘Old Love’ – yes I enjoyed Jeffery Archers a lot – that was again teenage to college years I guess

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I tried to read the Fountainhead just because everybody was reading and yes I liked the last and most famous part of it – but somehow I don’t feel for that book. However, the character of Roark keeps on coming back in my imagination…in situations where I become hypocrite, I wonder what Roark would have done and then I feel guilty :(…..

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Robert Ludlum stuff – Bourne series etc – again inspired by few college mates

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well, Love in the Time of Cholera – I hated and loved that book – there’s something about that book….I struggled to finish it …nevertheless I wanted to finish that saga of unrequited love 🙂

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some motivational stuff – The Monk who sold his ferrari to the Alchemist – this was the early professional life phase

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some humor from Chetan Bhagat – I re-read 5 point someone few days back and I loved it again and I loved 2-states always – well Chetan Bhagat happened to me on couple of flights

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My losing my way with Zen and the Art of Motorcycle maintenance – some book I say…have to finish it some day 🙂

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Again some hindi translation of motivation books – You can win …Art of positive thinking – there was nothing better to do when I’m in Dehradun on vacation in merciless June

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Now, Chitra Banerjee – The Unknown Errors of Our Lives – the year hasn’t be great so far (well 2011 rocked comparatively), to say least – and somehow the emotions from the book are resonating within
I wonder how she gets it all … from the feelings of an old women who is with her son and daughter-in-law in Sunnyvale to a confused desi NRI girl in some Los Angeles restaurant to another desi girl confused about marrying a nice guy who turns out to be not-so-nice-but-only-human – wide range of personalities and altogether different set of sensibilities associated with each character – She’s simply great at that or may be I’m in love with this book right now…this happens to me all the time…yes I loved Jeffery Archer at some point and Robert Ludlum too and Chetan Bhagat too and Gabriel Garcia too… I’m thinking …whether to buy other books written by her…they seem very promising…but I guess I’ll wait…for my current awe with her art to subside a bit and let me come to my senses 🙂
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11:19 PM Friday the 13th of July 🙂 let’s have dinner and publish this grammatically ugly post of mine which any GMAT candidate would love to correct for misplaced whichs and thats 🙂

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Sleep

Just want to sleep
Work is neck-deep
But I just want to sleep

Past – you give me creep
Oh future ! I desperately want a peep
Hopes – I want you as my keep
Tomorrow I will definitely leap
Will ride on my luck’s jeep 😛

People – not so many cusses – beep beep
Have exhausted all my rhyming *eep 😦
So for now, I would just sleep

 

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Motivational Quotes :)

Only rarely is the cost of failure greater than the cost of not trying at all ! Jeff Bezos

Pain is temporary, Quitting is permanent Lance Armstrong

Every time you’re making a choice, one choice is the safe/comfortable choice – and one choice is the risky/uncomfortable choice. the risky/uncomfortable choice is the one that will teach you the most and make you grow the most, so that’s the one you should choose. Derek Sivers (http://sivers.org/scares-excites-do-it)

If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well. Martin Luther King Jr.

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan

Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983.

From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: “Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease”?

To this, Arthur Ashe replied:
“The world over — 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis,
500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam,
50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals,
when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD ‘Why me?’.
And today in pain I should not be asking GOD ‘Why me?’ “

“Happiness keeps you Sweet,
Trials keep you Strong,
Sorrow keeps you Human,
Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing, but only Faith & Attitude Keeps you going..”

http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

Passion triumphs logic ….and then we have got ourselves a game: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=niHSWYE-PLI

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Ravana

Image

From the other side of mirror, he coldly stares at us
His fault was that he feared failure more than us
Yes, he rues missing that bus
He dreamt, and dreamt wide
But now, he is lonely and cries inside
He runs from world,lest they know his failure
He is under pressure
And then he erupts
venom spurts
He was earlier rejected
Worse, now he’s hated
by everyone,
by himself looking from other side of mirror

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An attempt to go inside the mind and character of the antagonist of any story – what lies inside that monster who’s hated by all !!!

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Good Timing

My 3rd speech at Bangalore Toastmasters :-

What do you feel inside, when your train is announced to be late? …Or when your order in a restaurant, is not attended for half an hour? …

…Irritated… Incensed… Insulted….

There was a priest, Mr. John, who was being honored after 25 years of service. A local politician was to give a speech in his honor.

The politician was late and while they waited, the priest started narrating his experiences

“I got my first impression of this place by the first confession. The very first person who entered my confessional told me that he had stolen a television, bribed the police, had an affair with the wife of his boss and then embezzled money at the office. I was appalled.

But as the days went by, I realized, all other folks were loving and god-fearing”

Just then, the politician arrived, full of apologies, for being late.

The politician began “I’ll never forget the day when Mr. John first came to our church. In fact, I had the honor of being the first one to confess, before him”

….

Only if the politician had arrived on time!!!

Some believe – status of a person is directly proportional to the time by which he’s late.

Unpunctuality is a problem – make no mistakes about it.

Why is punctuality important?

1)      Being punctual adds shine to your character. You are perceived as reliable, honest, considerate and as a man who has foresight to adapt to any situation.

2)      Don’t fool yourself into thinking that nobody notices latecomers. People feel insulted.

“The while we keep a man waiting, he reflects on our shortcomings.”

3)      Somebody said “The trouble with being punctual is that nobody’s there to appreciate it”

When a man sees that always he’s the only one ontime, he starts coming late reluctantly.

There was a survey conducted in a school, to analyze reasons for students being late. The reasons cited were quite interesting like “overslept, “tore my trousers” and one imaginative student was late because “he stopped to look at a strange dog “.

So why are we late?

1)      Traffic?

How many of us have ever missed a job interview?

And somehow for Friday premiere, we manage to reach the PVR , early enough to buy popcorns.

We are very smart people – we assign priorities – to people…events .

Conference call with clients – let me first have a smoke first, replenish my creative juices – 10 minutes late chalta hai!

 

Toastmaster meeting – I know I’m the MC, let me just send this last email, yes, somebody will find assignees for me.

2)      For some-god-forsaken reasons being late is associated with our culture. I have never seen a wedding where groom’s side reaches the marriage hall on time. We amuse ourselves in equating IST to tardiness.

3)      And sometimes we are late deliberately, like in those status meetings, when we don’t have any status to give.

4)      Genuine reasons are there but an apology is a must.

The solution of this problem doesn’t involve rocket-science:-

1)      Be honest about our priorities and inform the concerned parties accordingly.

2)      Keep your watch accurate.

3)      Note down the time spent in traffic and plan accordingly the next time.

William Penn said it correctly:

“Time is what we want most, but…..what we use worst “

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one for the f word

so there are people

people you know and

you smile at them and

you ignore when they make guffaws and

you hide your annoyance or

you try hard to avoid that bored look when talking to them or…

you can’t think much about them apart from above few lines.

 

Then there are people

people – you blast off when they make a mistake and

people whose mistakes, hurt you

people , with whom you you are ever-on-prowl for one guffaw of theirs , for that one chance to pull their leg

people with whom one can be one’s ownself

people with whom you share a thing or two

people with whom you share a drink or two

people whose happiness is worth sharing for you and bigger than any other thing in the world

Now again somebody said…let me Google it who actually said that…Elbert Hubbard :

A friend is one who knows all about you and still loves you

 

 

 

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